Life is infinitely valuable yet agonizingly short. Every fleeting second of your life is worth as much as life itself, and you only have once chance to make the most of each moment. Life is never going to be perfect. The universe isn’t going to hand peace and fulfillment to you on a silver platter. It’s up to you to make the changes in your life that will bring you happiness. You’ll never have complete control of your environment. So you’ll never be able to create the perfect life for yourself as you imagine it, and even if you could, it wouldn’t last forever. So being happy depends more on your ability to enjoy life right now, as it is, than your ability to control the world.
Having said that, there are situations where this philosophy doesn’t apply. Being dogmatically optimistic when there are legitimate external problems in your life isn’t a virtue. That’s insanity. You’re not helping yourself by deluding yourself into believing everything is okay when it’s not.
If you live in the ghetto or suburbia, your life isn’t as good as it could be. Ghettos and suburbs are designed so that you’re far away from work, shopping and leisure. You may have a micro park near you, but that’s about it. You’ll be forced to spend time and money driving anywhere, and wherever you go, everything you do will cost as much money as possible. So you’ll likely spend most of your free time at home where your rent, mortgage, utilities, food and home furnishings will be as expensive as possible. This will limit your options and force you to buy low quality goods and services, which will provide you a lackluster quality of life. If you live in a community that has cultural values that you disagree with, you’ll probably enjoy life even less.
If none of that applies to you, then congratulations, you’re the exception. The rest of society lives in a sensory deprivation pressure cooker. If you’re one of the unlucky people who live in a ghetto or suburb, I have good news. You can live somewhere awesome, and if you haven’t proven it already, you will eventually. At some point in your life you’re going to move houses and change jobs. If you can do that in one city, you can do it across cities. Moving to another country isn’t even that complicated. If you’re in good health, have a bachelor’s degree and are under 30 years old, you can emigrate. All you have to do is file some paperwork and then move your body from one place to another. It’s not as easy as baking a cake, but it’s within your capabilities.
The only thing holding you back from living in a beautiful town with lakes, forests, rivers, ocean waters, nice people, clean air, good food, beautiful culture and freedom is your excuses. You can make all the excuses in the world for why you’re stuck in a dead end town working at a dead end job surrounded by dead end people, and your reasons might sound inarguable on paper, but all of those perfect excuses aren’t going to do you any good 30 years from now when all you have to look back on is a lifetime spent waiting for your real life to begin.
Your only shot at life is happening right now. This is the only chance you’re ever going to have to spend today somewhere you love. This is the only chance you’re going to have to build the memories of today that you’re going to carry with you for the rest of your life. There’s nothing more important going on in your life than making the most out of your life. If you can’t afford to move, then you’re doing something wrong, and you need to read “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. There’s nothing you can’t accomplish if you put your mind to it and never give up. You can and should live somewhere awesome, because the cost/benefit analysis of spending your life in an oppressive, stifling environment just doesn’t add up.
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